Following Dr. Crazy's suggestion that midweek we blog about what we are reading for pleasure, and realizing that my time for pleasure reading may soon be on the downturn, I am going to dive in with the book I just finished last night, Stumbling on Happiness by Daniel Gilbert. John and I were both drawn to this book before it even came out thanks to a little blurb in the style section of the New York Times which focused on Gilbert's own minimal requirements for happiness. Those requirements included living where he could walk to work daily and wearing the same style and color of pants, also daily (the picture if I remember correctly showed him in front of the closet with all the pants neatly lined up). John identified with both these principles, and I with one of them (hint: it wasn't the pants), and so I dropped the book into our Amazon shopping cart and waited for its publication.
The book itself, however, is about more than pants and commutes: it draws on thousands of cognitive studies to explain why it is that we are so bad at predicting what is going to make us happy.
What's more, it is written by an academic for nonacademics, which has its pluses and minuses. One of the pluses is that I, not a specialist in cognitive psychology, could understand it and could also dip into the rich footnotes if I wanted to find out more about the studies he cites. And yet one of the minuses, to my mind, is Gilbert's idea of what 'regular people' might find funny. This very feature prompts NYT reviewer Scott Stossel to issue a "cringe alert": "Uh-oh," writes Stossel, "an academic who cracks wise." I also strenuously object to the back cover blurb which claims "Gilbert writes like a cross between Malcolm Gladwell and David Sedaris," though I do appreciate the irony that said blurb comes from the author of All Marketers are Liars. IOW, be warned: Gilbert is no Gladwell or Sedaris; hell, he can't even write as well as David Brooks (whose columns I can't finish for other reasons). Indeed, John, whose only amendment to the happy pants uniform would be a big pocket in which to fit a book, nonethless abandoned this particular book because of the crappy prose and dumb jokes.
And yet even though both those things bugged me, I managed to finish the book, mostly because I found Gilbert's account of humans' flawed relations to their futures as riveting as it is (at times) unsurprising. Our futures, for Gilbert, necessarily rely on our imaginations, which are usually overblown and overly optimistic, and which also rely on our equally flawed memories of past experiences.
One extended example I found particularly interesting had to do with people's inability to anticipate what it would be like to make a major life change such as having children. Many have visions of the lovely, cooing infant or the successful young violinist but none are able to imagine the day-to-day experiences of childrearing, which Gilbert contends actually cause people's (especially women's) happiness to plummet. The curious thing about the data on childrearing, though (or at least the happiness data Gilbert cites), is that they show the imagined future linking up with the memories. IOW, once kids are gone from the house, people's brains recast the childrearing experience as positive and totally worth it. That's just an example, and there are so many more in this book.
Gilbert's arguments might be pretty unsatisfying for some, and they can also be awkward in certain contexts, such as when Gilbert was asked to write a short piece for Time on Father's Day. Having read the book before the article, I believe that despite what Gilbert tells himself (or the readers of Time), he probably had to work really hard to find something optimistic to say about the happiness of fathers in the face of the overwhelming data to the contrary. He ends up valorizing the resilience of parenthood in what I read as a little bit damning by faint praise, but probably also powerfully true, if our flawed sense of happiness is to be trusted.
Gilbert is also pretty good at anticipating people's objections. So for example, when it comes to the advice-giving final chapter (a demand that was clearly placed on Gilbert in the way that rhet/comp articles are usually asked to wind around to classroom practice), Gilbert argues that the best way to figure out what a particular future will be like is to (duh) ask people who are already there. As I read this final section last night, I was thinking "but those people aren't like me! They don't necessarily like what I like!" And in the next section Gilbert assaults that idea with data point after data point about how we really aren't as special as we think we are.
In the end, Gilbert's book may unwittingly perform one of its major points: the minute-by-minute experience of reading the book doesn't really match up with either my anticipation or my recollection of it, because it ultimately left me with lots to think about, and value. In keeping with data Gilbert offers elsewhere in the book about how the most recent (or temporally last) impression can take over our memories and eclipse other qualities of an experience, the last two chapters which broaden the discussion to economics, evolution, communication, and group preservation of delusional beliefs, left me thinking this book is pretty damned good.
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